Saturday, August 3, 2013

Reflections on Life in New York City

I'm taking a moment to reflect on my summer trip to NYC. I was so glad to be home after a long, exciting trip. However, I already miss the Big Apple. I feel that addiction rising up again every time I see a TV show, picture, news story, etc with something about the city. I know living there is a dream that has passed me by, but I do hope to visit many more times especially now that I feel like it's been a second home for me.  I miss that feeling of excitement that I felt every time I walked out the door to the streets at the beginning of each day. I miss eating anything and everything and still losing weight because of the constant walking.  I miss being able to exercise by walking and seeing interesting things without the monotony of the gym.  I miss the shopping. The shopping from designer shops to the cheapest ghetto shops was the best shopping ever.  There are so many great shopping opportunities. I miss the lights and the people (not the tourist). I miss the need for iced coffee. I miss the spectacular views, the places to visit, the diversity. 


I am happy to be home, but the best thing about vacation is escaping the everyday stressors of life. It's nice to focus on fun and exciting things and forget all the things that keep me awake worrying about things that don't really matter. Though wonderful and memorable, vacation also makes us long for our home and routine. There truly is no place like home, but you can't appreciate it fully until you leave it for awhile. Who invented vacations?  I think it must have been God to help us regroup and appreciate what we already have while also loving where we are visiting. I am so blessed to have had the opportunity to have such a great 50th birthday gift. Thanks to my husband for tagging along and agreeing to my dream vacation. I don't know of any other place I could have visited in one month and literally traveled the world.   I hope to travel to NYC many more times before I'm too old to enjoy it. I think the next phase of my life might include being a NYC tour guide taking others on trips to the Big Apple. 



Cindy Pafford

Tuesday, July 9, 2013

NYC - Part 6

Ever since I planned our first trip to NYC I've wanted to ride the number 7 train to Queens. I had read that it was referred to as the International Express because of the diversity of each area where the train stops. The train runs above ground through Queens. We never seemed to make it and I was determined to do it this time. On Tuesday we started our journey on the 7 train from the Times Square station. As the train left Manhattan it came out of the cave underground and climbed above the city toward Queens. It was exciting to ride above ground and see the city as we traveled. The first stop on the train was Long Island City. We got off the train to explore. LIC is very industrial. We wanted to walk toward Manhattan to the park that I read gave a great view of Manhattan. We never made it and decided to get back on the train. However, we did see lots of really cool graffiti in that area. Plus, there seemed like so much more room than in Manhattan. Already the buildings were lower, there were homes that resembled houses instead of Apt buildings. 

Our next stop on the 7 train was at Sunnyside, Queens. It was a cute community with quaint homes on side streets. Down the middle of the street the elevated train overhead  housed parking places underneath. This was an unusual sight since in Manhattan they stack cars on metal racks to make room for parking.  I had a coffee shop on my list to visit. This particular shop was an Armenian coffee shop. 


They roast their own beans in the shop. It was an old shop, like so many in NY and the woman running it was obviously Armenian with a thick accent. There was a big coffee roaster in the corner and many different types of coffee beans and ground coffee to purchase. We purchased an iced coffee since it was hot and humid and we wanted a cool drink. Instead of ice cubes, she added frozen cubes of coffee which meant the coffee didn't get watery. The coffee was smooth and delicious. We also bought a house blend coffee to take home.  We walked through Woodside admiring the various businesses noticing how many nationalities were represented within a couple of blocks. We also saw a large elementary school. I always look for schools and in the past had trouble finding them. This trip I finally found schools and always take a picture when I find one.  

From Sunnyside we traveled next to Woodside. Woodside, from what I had read had lots of different ethnic restaurants like English Pubs, Thai restaurants, Mexican and more. I wanted to time the trip to have lunch here because I had a Thai restaurant on my list that had been recognized by chowhounds and foodies. I love Thai food and this place was supposed to be authentic. We walked through Woodside admiring the neighborhood stores and businesses under the train tracks. When the train passed overhead it was so loud. I guess if you hear it constantly you get used to it. It's  interesting how different life is in this city. There are so many ethnic groups and though they appear to stick together based on race, they also have learned to blend together as well. There are Mexican businesses next to Italian, then you might see an Asian business and even more as you walk just one block. We moved on looking for our Thai destination. We found the restaurant and the first thing I noticed was the space.  Ahhhh, I could eat and breathe because we were not sitting in a cracker box at a table with someone we didn't know or right up against another family.   This place was roomy and very new looking inside. I had read it was recently renovated and had a beautiful outside garden area to dine. The garden area was in fact very pretty but the heat drove us inside to eat. 




The lunch special was only $13.50 and it included an appetizer, entree and drink. The food was great and spicy even though we requested mild spice. I read this place was known for the authentic Thai heat. Jerry isn't a fan of Thai food, but he thought it was good. 
I loved it. I think it's the best meal I've had yet since we got here. Or at least I enjoyed it more than any other. I have a recent, new love for Thai food.  

Once our tummies were full we jumped back on the train to go to Jackson Heights. In Jackson Heights there is what referred to as "Little India" right as you exit the train station. This was a unique place. It literally felt as if you were walking the streets of foreign soil. All the businesses housed signs with foreign languages to mark the businesses. 

The ladies and men were dressed in Indian attire. We saw many restaurants, gold shoppes, fabric and wedding wear shoppes with Indian wedding attire. Even the stores had magazines written in their language as well as products such as shampoo, etc. We also saw many women and men as they tried to lure us in for palm readings. We passed on that. I read there were many sweet shoppes so I thought this might be a good place for a sweet snack. I do not like Indian food but thought how can I go wrong with a dessert. Jerry wouldn't risk it since he's so allergic to nuts and he says they have many ground nuts in their food. I bought a little sweet item that looked like a donut hole. I thought that was small enough to sample.  I took one bite and wanted to puke. It was not good to me. The texture was weird. I think I was expecting donut texture. They said they make desserts with ground chickpeas. I'm sorry, but how can that even be appetizing using chickpeas for a dessert. I have tried to like Indian food but its just not my thing. Not only do I dislike the food, their desserts are gross too.  Jerry really enjoyed visiting Little India. It truly was a neat experience and fascinating to see how this community has turned their neighborhood into a home like their native country. It was fun to experience a little of their culture with a walk down one long street. 

We had plans to stop next at Corona Park. Jerry wanted to see that big thing that was in the Men in Black movie. However we were beginning to tire because at every stop there were the infamous millions of train station stairs to climb up and down. At this point we had encountered many stairs and it was getting more humid as the day passed. Jerry knew I wasn't turning back until we visited the last stop on the 7 train which was Flushing Queens. 

Yes Flushing is a real place, not just Fran from The Nanny's make believe TV home. Flushing is where the largest Chinatown exists. Flushing's Chinatown is actually larger than Manhattan's Chinatown. As you exit the train you feel you have just entered China. There is also a large Korean community in Flushing as well. I only know that because I read it. I hate to say it, but I wouldn't be able to tell if a person was Korean or Chinese. I don't understand the language so they could be speaking any Asian language and I wouldn't have a clue. 


Flushing's Chinatown is different than
Manhattan. Though they are selling items like Manhattan's CT they were not luring people to buy illegal items such as purses, watches, glasses, etc. This area seemed to reflect the everyday life of the people. You really felt as if you might be in China because the streets were so packed you could barely walk. Here the bubble tea shoppes were extremely plentiful. I finally found out about bubble tea. I've been wondering what it was because I had seen shoppes all over Manhattan. The waitress at the Thai restaurant told me the bubble in the tea is tapioca. That does not sound appetizing to me. However, the tea shoppes were packed in Flushing. 

After Flushing we made our way back via subway to our apt. We stopped to eat along the way at a franchise restaurant named Chopt. There are several of these type salad places here. Another popular one is Just Salad.  These places serve chopped salads. There are pre-determined ingredient salads or you can build your own. I really like the pre-determined because they have the right mix of things. They take the lettuce and all the ingredients and cram them packed full in a large plastic bowl. Then they dump on a chopping board and chop the daylights out of the salad. Once chopped they put in a large mixing bowl and add the dressing and toss it all over the salad and put back in your bowl.  They are so good. I love them. I wish we had one of these places at home. I plan to make them at home myself. Pioneer Woman, Ree Drummond made  them on her show because she fell in love with them in NYC. 

We had planned to also do a trip to Coney Island and had kind of talked us out of it because if some of the things I had read saying it was grimy and unsafe. Jerry really wanted to go so Wednesday we decided we would take the chance and if we got off the train and didn't like it we would just turn around and go back.  Coney Island is part of Brooklyn but a distance away on the east coast of Brooklyn. It's actually not an island despite its name.  We took the train and again. As you go out to the different boroughs the trains run above ground. I really like riding above ground seeing where I'm going. Plus you have cell phone service when riding above ground unlike the underground rides.  It was interesting and somewhat ghetto looking on the ride out. The train stations were old and a little worn. There was a good bit of graffiti and the scenery was dirty and industrial.  However once we got to Coney Island it was good. It's such a neat place and it reminded me so much of the the boardwalk at Daytona Beach that I went to as a child. 

You don't see boardwalks much anymore. There is an amusement park right on the boardwalk with lots of hotdog stands and other types of walk up eating establishments. Jerry really wanted to ride the wonder wheel but the park was closed because the space needle had been swaying and they had to inspect it.





The ocean wasn't really what I expected to see in NYC, but it appears NYC has everything. Just a short subway ride and you can spend the day at the beach. The original Nathan's hotdog is at Coney Island, so of course we had to have one.  Believe it or not I've never had one at home. One of the best things about Nathan's in NYC is that you can order it with the cooked spicy onions that you can get at every hotdog cart here in NY.  We love them. One thing they don't do on hotdogs here is slaw. 

Once we sat at a picnic table to eat our hotdogs we began conversing with someone else at the table. It just so happened the lady was a teacher in Jamaica, Queens which is extremely rough and inner city. She said she has to restrain kids on a daily basis. We enjoyed conversation and agreed to find one another on Facebook. We took her picture to go with the others of those we've met while here in NYC.  


We walked the boardwalk enjoying the space, the view, the breeze and sunshine. We walked all the way down to Brighton Beach which is about a 25 minute walk. The boardwalk connects Coney Island and Brighton Beach.  The area has a large community of Jewish immigrants who left the Former Soviet Union in 1970.  Most of what I observed was Russian businesses, restaurants an lots of people speaking Russian.  We stopped to ask a question of two older women. One was American, the other had a heavy Russian accent.   They were so funny. Every question we asked they argued about the answer. Before we left we asked to take their picture. The American lady was fine with it, but the Russian lady wouldn't allow us to take her picture. The American said  "she's afraid of the CIA". LOL. 

The beach in Brighton had several Cafes right on the boardwalk. The other streets were much like Queens with the neighborhood businesses under the subway tracks. 

We took the subway from Brighton Beach to Fort Green, Brooklyn to find an outpost of a restaurant we had visited on a previous visit to Manhattan. We made it there and enjoyed a quesadilla and their famous grilled corn.  We sat outside and ate quickly because the lady behind us was talking so loud and every two words, no exaggeration, she dropped the "f" bomb. I couldn't listen to her another second. 

On Thursday we debated about going to see the fireworks. We felt like we couldn't be in NYC and miss the fireworks, but on the other hand, we heard it would be packed and you would have to stand to hold your spot for as long as five hours. We didn't want to see the fireworks that badly. We decided to go as close as we could without being in the designated roped off area. We found a really nice park along with lots of other people. It was a nice place to plant ourselves for 5 hours. 


The weather was nice, the park was beautiful, had many families there and nobody was doing any big partying.  We enjoyed the day, eating a sandwich and snacks while sitting on our blanket. We watched the Macy's barges go by on the river, as well as many boats preparing for the fireworks. We met several people and enjoyed a day of conversations with a diverse group of people. The fireworks finally started and by this time the park was crowded. From our place at the park you could view the fireworks from one barge, from a distance and could hear no music. 


Needless to say, all that takes away from the actual experience viewed on TV. I still don't regret seeing them this way. I don't love fireworks enough to stand in a hot and stinky place for hours. To me all fireworks are basically the same. 

Friday we decided to visit City Island which is an island at the end of the Bronx. It required a long subway ride and then a transfer to a bus to go out to the island. I had read it was similar to a New England fishing village. I haven't been to a New England fishing village, but it didn't appear to be like what I expected based on the description I had read. The ride to the Bronx was also above ground most of the way. It was really a rough looking place. We had to transfer trains at one point and I didn't really enjoy the scenery as I did in Queens. Once we got off the train to transfer to the bus, it was hot and just rough looking, not an appealing area. Once on City Island we found a fairly nice seafood restaurant and had lunch. 


We walked a few streets on City Island. There were actual homes with yards more like home. We didn't see much there that was appealing so we finally made our way back. The Bronx has been my least favorite Borough to visit. 

Saturday we wanted to find a cooler activity because there was a heat wave in NYC.   We purchased reasonably priced water taxi tickets and rode the boat to Dumbo first. Dumbo is in Brooklyn.   It is short for Down Under the Manhattan Bridge Overpass. There is a nice park there and a well known ice cream shop as well as a few restaurants close by. We were going to eat at Grimaldi's because it is well known for its pizza. We really weren't in the mood, but never the less it was well known so we thought we would try it. We found a line out the door and  no shade in sight. It was extremely hot so we decided it wasn't that important. Instead we ate at a little French cafe that served crepes we enjoyed a savory chicken, cheese and mushroom crepe. It was light and tasty. After Dumbo we rode the boat to Williamsburg, Brooklyn. Williamsburg is across the river from the lower east side. It's referred to as a college town without a college. It's got that artsy fartsy, bohemian feel to it. It's easy to describe the type, young, grungy, tattoos, piercings, vintage. I refer to them as tree huggers. I actually love visiting those areas looking at the clothing stores, boutiques, Cafes. I currently follow a fashion photographer on Instagram and FB that photographs fashion weeks all over the world as well as other fashion events and I believe for magazines. She was so kind to send me messages and recommend a few places for me since she lives in NYC.  She recommended a bakery called Bakeri in Williamsburg. 


We stopped in this really hipster place and
enjoyed one of their cinnamon rolls. I think they may have been "somewhat" healthy. In comparison to our cinnamon rolls with tons of sugar and butter I'm sure they were. However, they were good. 

Saturday evening we decided to venture out to Staten Island. We watch a reality show about hair and makeup salons called Jeseylicious. They are all in New Jersey and we wanted to go but thought without a car going to Jersey might be difficult.  Three of the cast members are a family that own a pizzeria on Staten Island. We thought this was doable so we decided to go.  We didn't really expect to see any of the cast there but thought it may be fun since we had seen the place on the show. We took the ferry over and for the first time, after riding that ferry multiple times we actually left the ferry station. We caught a bus and rode for what seemed like forever.  As we rode I was beginning to get a little apprehensive. It was nearing dark. We weren't familiar with the area and I didn't see taxis. That unnerved me some because I always feel like if I'm in a place that makes me uncomfortable in NYC then I can always get a taxi. We hadn't needed it more than one time and that was only because I was feeling bad.  We weren't sure how far the walk would be from the bus. We used an app on our phone that was great for directions, but the area was unfamiliar and people weren't walking as much like in Manhattan. There were more drivers on the road than walkers. We exited the bus and by that time it was dusk. We walked and walked past a few sketchy places and people. We finally found the pizza place and I was afraid about getting back at dark. Jerry found a bus right by the pizza place and it was well lit and populated so I relaxed and was enjoying the place looking around, eating salad and pizza. Not only does the Giove family own the pizzeria, they are also well known for great Sicilian pizza. They actually won a throw down with Bobby Flay. They are the old Italian pizzeria where they throw the dough and everything. Although I didn't see any dough throwing that night. While eating a young guy and girl walked past the window outside and Jerry said "there's Fillipo". He's one of the main characters on our show and his family owns the pizza place. I jumped up and ran outside before he could get away and told him I was a fan of the show and asked if I could I get a picture. He was very obliging and as cocky as he is on the show. He also has that stereotypical Italian attitude like we always picture from TV. I told him I came over to the pizzeria because we like the show. He asked me if I came to see him or eat pizza. I told him about my trip and that I was turning 50. Of course he flattered me by telling me how good I looked and he hoped his wife would look that good at 50. Ha ha. He asked where my husband was and if he trusted me out there with him. LOL. 

Jerry finally walked out and we conversed and took pictures. He had an adorably pretty girl with him who was also very nice. We went back in and he and his girlfriend went in as well to have pizza. What a cheap date he is taking her to the family pizzeria  Ha ha. We talked to them once more before we left. He told me to follow him on Instagram and he would follow me. He's even liked some of our pics on Instagram. It was a fun night and we were able to catch the bus right outside the pizzeria and get back to the ferry. 

Sunday we went back to Brooklyn Tabernacle church. The previous week we had attended Times Square Church which was also a treat. We have really enjoyed visiting churches, hearing the choirs, which are huge.  I am ready to get back to my own church though. I miss it.   That evening Jerry wanted to go to the top of the Empire State Building. We in fact stood in an hour or more line and made the trip to the observation deck. Although beautiful, there was something about viewing the city at night that gave me anxiety. I didn't feel that way a few years ago when we went up in the daylight. Jerry, who says he's afraid of heights was loving it. I couldn't stand close long, it made me anxious. The view was great though. 


I was happy when we got back to the bottom. After that, at nearly 10:30 we walked up to Times Square for dinner. Believe it or not, unless you are near TS most restaurants close at 10. After dinner we enjoyed sitting in TS one last time before our trip ended. It was less crowded than it had been the other times we were there. Jerry had developed a cold and was feeling bad so at midnight we made it back to our apt. 

On Monday Jerry woke up coughing and feeling bad. I wanted to go back to Chinatown one last time for more knockoffs. He absolutely hates Chinatown, so I left him behind and enjoyed my shopping without him constantly asking if was done yet.  I managed to score a couple of good items before finding a nasty looking little Chinese restaurant. They all look that way. You just have to accept that's Chinatown. You have to ignore the meat, duck, with heads attached that are cooked and hanging in the front of the window or restaurant.  I wanted an egg roll but the gentleman waiting on me informed me they didn't serve egg rolls because egg rolls, according to him, are not Chinese, but American. I asked what they had that was similar. He said he had never eaten an egg roll but recommended something called a shrimp roll. It was different but actually good. 

When I was ready to leave Chinatown, my phone app said walking to the bus or subway was actually further than walking all the way back to Wall St. So, I walked all the way back in the hot sun. It was a little cooler than the previous day. Jerry was dressed and ready to go so we headed up to SoHo to visit the NYC Fire Museum.  


We wanted to see this because they have a section dedicated to the firefighters that died in 9-11 tragedy. The museum was very small and the 9-11 section was very touching, but we are really glad we got to see it.

Our plans had been to spend our last night having dinner at our favorite restaurant. They have recently moved locations. They had just moved a week after we got here and we went then too. However we were looking for a specific waitress, Anne that we had met three years prior. She is from Georgia. 

We got to the restaurant while they were getting ready for the dinner hour so they just let us sit, enjoy a coke and some bar chips. The dinner did not disappoint. We had lemon chicken with pasta. It was delicious. We also saw Ann and spent most of the evening talking with her. Our waitress gave us dessert on the house and we took their homemade peanut butter cookies with us. We said goodbye and decided to walk down Columbus Ave which is where they are newly located. I had on my list to walk this road for good shopping. Why now, my last night did I discover this great road. We actually shopped a little, but I was pushing my luck at this point with Jerry since we had just mailed a. 20 x 30 box home full of the things I had already purchased.  

We finally made our way to the subway happy to know this would be our very last ride. Of course, this train enforced how much we were looking forward to giving up subway riding. It was packed and it was like climbing in a sardine can. And of course my last trip had to include a crazy man singing songs about me trying to get money.  We happily exited the subway excited that tomorrow we were going home. 

I've shared the activities of our last week and a half and look forward to sharing my reflections of the trip after I return home. I'm sitting in the airport now beyond exited to go home. I can't wait to sleep in my bed tonight and take a hot bath in my bathtub. Home sweet home, please get there fast. 



Cindy Pafford

Wednesday, June 26, 2013

NYC - Part 5

Too many days have passed since I last blogged so reviewing events in details are not possible any more. Instead I will highlight the last weeks events as much as I can remember.  Being in NYC hasn't kept us from enjoying friends from other places or from home. Last  week we were going to ride the ferry to Governor's Island but found out it was only open to the public on weekends. My research had not given me this important information.  Since we couldn't go we walked to the lower end of Battery Park. It's really beautiful there and the view of the Statue of Liberty is great.  I think it must be the best view on land short of going over to Liberty Island.  While at the park we ran smack into one of Jerry's former co-workers, Linda Lavigne. 



What a small world, especially as crowded as NYC is this time of year. While conversing with her we realized that her granddaughter is also a student at my school. 

On Saturday evening we met up with a college friend of mine YaVonda Hall, who was in the city with her son and friend for the evening.  



We had pizza together and then went out for dessert. She said she had a sore throat from talking so much. It requires full on chatter to catch up on 30 years of life in one night.  We left them and didn't make it back to our apt. until after midnight. 

The next morning we went to church at Brooklyn Tabernacle. There was a waiting line, but this time the weather was no longer perfect as it had been. It was warm and muggy and standing on the hot street for 30 to 45 minutes was tiring. Jerry and I were especially tired Sunday too.  While standing in line I watched a woman walk by talking out of her mind about vampires and using foul language. She was talking to no visible person, but obviously there was someone she saw that others did not. In addition, there was a guy begging for money from the people in line for church. He made sure he said "God Bless You" before asking for money.  I always feel an uncomfortable feeling when people are begging. I really want to help and feel sick if I walk away and don't help. However, I also have questions and thoughts about what they are really doing with the money. Sometimes I feel I miss opportunities to help others by wasting time with the many thoughts and questions I have at the moment the person is asking for help. I want to be sensitive to the spirit to know the difference or know how to help.  I saw a girl in the subway the other night looking in her wallet and she burst into tears. She was young. We were in a hurry and walked on through the turn stalls to the subway. I've had regrets for not talking to her and asking if I could help. It made me think of my own child and how I would want someone to help her if she were in need.

The service was wonderful.  It felt like a Pentecostal revival like we had growing up in the Church of God of Prophecy.   One of the other staff ministers, Tim Dilena, preached and he was wonderful. He spoke about knowing how God speaks to us when we need answers. He emphasized the importance of reading the word for direction.  He quoted someone with a very true and thought provoking statement "the less people read the bible, the more it is translated".  His message was meaningful to me and it reaffirmed what I know, that when I'm reading and studying the bible, all decisions and answers to questions are more clear. 




After church we visited Juniors for lunch again. It's  funny how as we acclimate to an environment we become creatures of habit again.  At home for some reason we frequent the same few restaurants on certain days of the week, especially on Sundays. Actually we planned to stay close by the church because I wanted to shop at a particular store in downtown Brooklyn.  Downtown Brooklyn is definitely an inner city environment with some of the negative features that you find in the inner city. However,  I really enjoy the downtown area. 



The sidewalks are wide and all the stores you typically find in the mall as well as hip hop stores are all on the Main Street. The street is actually called Fulton Street Mall.  When we enter church the streets are fairly quiet, but when we leave they are bustling with people and food and loud music. 

I've read the best way to see NYC is to walk the streets. We've definitely walked and walked and walked and walked and ridden busses and subways. NYC is definitely the most diverse city I've ever visited. Going from one area of the city to another area or neighborhood as referred to by NYers is like entering a different country. It isn't uncommon to hear people speaking other languages. Often you can ask questions or try to have conversations in English and the person to which you are speaking doesn't speak English. You can also speak "southern" and they also don't understand what you are saying.   No lie, people here really have a hard time understanding me. I also have difficulties understanding most of them too even though they are supposedly speaking English. Brunilda, from my church says its not English, they are speaking New York.

We've visited several areas of the city now by walking. We've been to Chinatown, Little Italy, Chelsea, Tribecca, Battery Park City, Upper West Side, Upper East Side, Morningside Heights, Lower East side, East Village, West Village, Midtown, Theater District, Garment District and Downtown Brooklyn and Brooklyn Heights. We hope to visit Queens and Staton Island and possibly Hoboken, NJ in our next two weeks.   In addition, we've also visited several parks. The ones I can remember are Bryant Park, Central Park, Hudson River Park, Battery Park, Washington Square Park, Herald Square, Morningside Park, Riverside Park, Brooklyn Promenade, Columbus Park and several others I cannot remember. 




I've been sick for a couple of days now. I thought I was better and went back to normal eating and got sick again. Today we have done nothing. Jerry is napping while I write this blog.   I hope rest helps us make it through the next two weeks.

This has been a great trip. As most of you know I love NYC and my feelings have not changed about this city. I still love it.  However, I've been asked if I still want to live in NYC. I have a confession to make and it may disappoint many who have loved my love of NYC. I confess I do not want to live in NYC.  Maybe in a younger life I would have fit right in, but at almost 50 I don't think I would love it every day. While NYers are nice and helpful, my observations of their day to day life seems a little depressing. They don't interact much with one another as they go through their day to day routines. I understand completely because they spend so much time working and transporting to and from places that the blank stare on the subway makes sense. 



Now that the shock factor is over for me I feel I do the same thing on the subway.   They don't seem to have downtime at all. They snack and eat on the busses and subways,  eat standing up and walk fast everywhere they go.  They are very fit people because they walk so much. It really is rare to see many overweight people walking the streets and climbing the subway stairs. I'm sure they are here but they are getting around some other way.  When they shop they have to carry large bags on busses and subways. Last night we saw a girl on the subway carrying a full length mirror. I've seen people with large speakers, tables, etc. 

Can you imagine carrying these things for several blocks?  Although there are so many options for food and entertainment, I've listened to conversations and had conversations with many locals who say they don't  go outside of their designated neighborhood or work area much. Many NYers haven't visited the places I've been in the few visits I've made to this city. I can actually tell them about places they don't know about themselves even after being here their entire lives.   I miss the privacy of my car. That time on my way home from work is peaceful and all mine. I miss southern hospitality. NYers are helpful, even nice, but they lack the same level of consideration that we own in the south. For example, when walking the streets, they do not step aside for anyone. I have tested it to see if they would move over if I didn't and they don't. They will plow you over without thinking twice. Everything is crowded and tight. You have so little space everywhere. Bathrooms are tiny, Cafes and restaurants are small and packed. You will always be seated right next to someone if not at the same table. The extras we get are not available here like refills on drinks, chips and salsa with your order, etc.  Although the food is plentiful some specifics stand out here and it's Italian, Asian and Deli food.  There is no Mexican restaurant on every corner. The soul food doesn't hold a candle to the food in the south. The pizza on the other hand is awesome. The cheesecake is the best you will ever taste. It's a good thing people walk here or they would all weight 500lbs. The smells of food is everywhere. You want to eat when you are already full. 

I love visiting other places and am always fascinated by the way other people live their lives. I love experiencing a different way of life and hope to be able to experience even more places throughout my lifetime, but this trip has helped me appreciate what I already have at home. I appreciate the green space available right outside my front and back doors. I appreciate my big bathtub, my moderate sized home that is mansion sized in NYC.  I like that southerners will strike up a conversation with anyone and everyone. I like that a man will give up his seat for a lady. Jerry and I were talking and laughed thinking about how noisy the subway would be if you filled it with southerners. Can you imagine the conversation?  I also miss the cleanliness of my own town. It's hard to keep a place this size clean. Riding subways and busses just makes you feel nasty. 



Going down under ground via stairs and stairs and stairs with millions of people and standing on a crowded subway when the seats are packed is only fun as an experience, not a way of life. 


Cindy Pafford

Thursday, June 20, 2013

NYC - Part 4

Wednesday we had tickets to see the matinee for Phantom of the Opera.  Jerry chose to see this show. I woke up feeling sick and really wished we didn't already have tickets because I wanted to stay in and rest. We got dressed and made our way to Times Square via subway. Of course we had to go by way of the same escalator  where I had encountered the gross man a few nights before. Jerry laughed and asked if I wanted him to walk in front of me and I told him definitely. We decided to eat before the show so we chose to go Guy Fieri's American Kitchen. 



I was in need of something lite and healthy. I felt really yuck.   We shared a large salad.  It was an Asian type salad and it was very good. However, it was $18 for one salad. Food in NYC is already expensive and when you eat in TS the prices get higher. The restaurant was convenient because it was right across from the Majestic Theater where Phantom was playing.


My friend Barbara told me I would hate Phantom of the Opera. I didn't know it was one of those shows where they sing every word. I absolutely hate those. If Jerry had known that he wouldn't have chosen it. I was open minded though because Broadway has never disappointed me. Honestly I think had I not been so sleepy and feeling so bad I would have enjoyed it even better. I didn't hate it.  The music was great, even if it was opera. Thank goodness for those four years Meaghan sang with the Augusta Children's Chorale and we were forced to go to the opera every Christmas. After a few years it started to grow on me. If this had been my first opera experience I would have died of boredom. I've come to appreciate it slightly.   The technical production of the show was also great. I can say it didn't disappoint, but I prefer the modern Broadway shows. We would really love to see Motown, but since its so new we don't expect to be able to get discount tickets.  We will not pay full price since our trip here is so long and we can get discount tickets for many others.   We plan to see one more show while we are here but planned to see one at the beginning of our trip and we will see another at the end.   After the show we went immediately back to our apartment since I was not feeling well. We stayed in for the evening and ate leftovers for dinner. We had leftover Chinese food and pizza so it was a good way to save money. We were both so tired we were in bed by 11:00.

Thursday we decided to go to the lower east side. I had lots of things on my list to see in that area. I've heard so much about it I wanted to go.   We took the bus again and since the lower east side is near Chinatown we were on the same bus as we were the other day when we went to CT. It was during school hours so there were no rowdy children for me to discipline. However, the group on the bus was speaking Chinese so we had no clue. They were funny. Jerry said they always sound mad when they are conversing. 


Once we exited the bus we followed our app directions to the lower east side visitor center for maps. Shortly after we began our walk a Jewish gentleman lured us in a  men's clothing store. He immediately began sizing Jerry and grabbing suit coats for him to try.  



We told him that Jerry was retired and didn't need a suit. He said he didn't mind, he loved talking to people and this was fun to him. He shared that this clothing store had been in his family for 73 years. 



We somehow stumbled to the conversation about our weight loss surgeries. This gentleman was interested and wanted to discuss blood pressure medications and compare what he was taking. I wanted to go, I was more interested in finding the women's shops. We were slack today we took his picture but we forgot to ask his name. I was ready to move on. He was authentically dressed in his yamaka with long strands of hair twisted and tucked  behind his ears. His beard, I assume was long since he had a black bobby pin stuck in his scraggly gray beard. We moved along admiring the lower east side. We had wanted to go to the Tenement Museum, but between the two of us it would have been $40 and neither us are fans enough of museums to spend that much. The lower east side has a personality of its own. It's got that artsy, grungy look mixed with the past Jewish heritage. The lower east side was once a place for immigrants trying to make a living. They worked hard to move out of the area and now their children are moving back because its now trendy among the artsy, tree hugger types. One nice thing we noticed is the prices of food and some clothing stores are cheaper in this area. There are many fabric stores in this area mixed with vintage, furniture, clothing stores and food markets. One market I really wanted to visit was the Essex Market. I read about the place and thought it sounded like an interesting place. In the market was different types of Latino groceries and produce. 



There was also Japanese items, bakery items and even a clothing store and barber shop. Inside the market was a little counter with Brooklyn tacos for sale. We were hungry so we each had a pork cooked in cola taco. It was very good and the tacos were only $4 each. They were very meaty and filling as well as tasty.  Another nice find was a great candy store. Just a couple of days ago we had visited the very hip candy store owned by Ralph Lauren's daughter on the upper East side. This was an economy candy store. It had all the same neat candy for lots cheaper. It was a fun store and we bought some of the same sour candy we purchased at Dylan's for a much better price. I recommend this place if you ever visit NYC. It's called Economy Candy Shop on Rivington St. 



Soon we found a cheap clothing store. They had great prices and cheap clothing. I really could have found some deals here, but go figure they had no fitting room. They said if they didn't fit I had seven days to return them. That was the craziest thing I had ever heard. I bought a $5 pair of leggings for Meaghan and one blouse that I tried on over my clothes. The lady at the register said no fitting room because of people stealing. I'm surprised they sell much without a fitting room.  Jerry also kept texting me wanting me to hurry because he was tired of sitting in McDonalds. The owner of the store said he had to leave his backpack up front to go inside so he opted  to sit next door instead. We continued our walk until we strolled into SoHo. SoHo is trendy in a totally different way than the lower east side. It's also artsy, but has a more expensive, classy feel. In SoHo you find high end boutiques and name brand stores. NoHo is also right in this area as well and it was difficult to tell when we were in one area or another.  SoHo is a great place to walk. It's pretty and hip with lots of Cafes, shopping and tree lined, cobblestone streets. While in SoHo we found a bench for Jerry while I found this shop I was looking for name Uniqlo. This shop also had good prices and cute clothing. I spent about an hour or so in this shop. The air conditioning was broken so trying on clothes while sweating was no longer fun and I left with only a few items and didn't break the bank. We decided to walk to  this restaurant we had went to on our last trip that sells this wonderful grilled corn. While walking there we passed a cafe with open walls and a garden area and we decided to dine there instead. The atmosphere was appealing and there were open tables so we stopped. We were tired from all the walking. We shared fish and chips and it was good enough. 



Since we were in SoHo we checked my list and decided to walk to this rooftop bar I had on my list because it was supposed to have great views of the city. We thought we might get a coke or coffee.  We walked for what seemed like a long way before we finally found the place. Once there we discovered reservations were needed. At that point we didn't really care because we were exhausted. We sat on a bench to get our bearings to figure out our route back to our apt. The corner we were on was quite busy and it appeared the party scene was getting started. While seated, two gentlemen walked up and were discussing one of them leaving to go to Asia. They parted ways and one of them sat on the bench next to us. We struck up a conversation with him. He shared that people who live in NY can't imagine living anywhere else, but they dream of getting out of the city and they do every chance they get. He said he wishes he could have an apt in NY and a house with a garage to the  suburbs so he could garden. 

We made our way to a bus stop and started back to our place. We went a different route seeing the west side on the Hudson River. We passed Battery Park City and Battery Park. It's very nice and we look forward to going there tomorrow.  We got off the bus at the Staton Island Ferry and made our way down through FiDi to our apt. Walking along the water in the evenings here is cold. I've yet to be hot here. It's been very nice during the day. At night we usually turn off the air and open the window while watching TV and I'm usually cold. We have considered walking back to the river since its right here, but it's always windy and cool.

Tomorrow we plan to eat breakfast at a diner. We are tired of continental breakfast with the carb overload. We are both ready for some protein. Apartment living has its positive and negative aspects. Some of the negatives are that we received minimal supplies, like two rolls of toilet paper, one roll of paper towels, no wash cloths, just a few towels, and there are no cooking supplies needed to cook a meal. There are cooking tools, but purchasing all the oils, spices, condiments wouldn't be worth the money.  We've learned to grab some fruit and milk from breakfast along with peanut butter packets and cream cheese. We have a big refrigerator, stove top and a big microwave with a built in convection oven. We've made sandwiches and eaten some of our leftovers but its just as cheap to split a meal. The nicest thing about the apt is the location. The FiDi is quiet at night and that's good for old people. It's close to the water with excellent views and it's easy to get a bus or catch the subway. The breakfast five days weekly is nice and plentiful and saves us money. The lounge area is nice and we enjoy hanging out there in the mornings. 



The rooftop deck is also nice. But unlike the lounge we can't hook to free wifi there. Having a washer and dryer has also been a lifesaver since we packed about a weeks worth of clothing (well maybe more for me). Jerry washes clothes daily which is one of his obsessions but with only a few towels we have to wash frequently. The washer and dryer are small so we can only wash small loads.  The apartment is small and Jerry and I are spending a lot of time with one another. Lets just say by the time we get back and I leave four days later for a week long conference, he will be ready for some alone time. We've done pretty well, but we have gotten on one another's nerves at times. Thanks goodness for social media because it gives us social time with other people. Lol. Until next time, I'm ending my sharing for the evening or I could say morning since its nearly 1:00 a.m.

Cindy Pafford

Tuesday, June 18, 2013

NYC, Part 3

Monday we headed over to Chinatown because I wanted a bigger shoulder strap bag than I am currently carrying. The backpack I brought, though small is a gym type bag with string/rope straps and they are uncomfortable for carrying heavier items.   We took things slow before getting ready because we are trying to pace ourselves. Actually I'm raring to go but Jerry wants to pace ourselves. He's used to the retired life now so he's missing his daily down time. 

We had a problem with the plumbing in our apt so we got a very late start waiting for maintenance to fix it.  About 2:30 or so we mapped our route on the bus to go to Chinatown. We are never 100% sure if we are on the right bus or subway and always ask others for confirmation we are headed in the right direction.  We boarded the bus and Jerry was still asking if we were on the right route. I punched him and said look around, we are obviously on the right bus everyone on the bus was Asian. There were lots of elementary school kids riding too. I wonder if riding the city bus is how kids go to school here. It could be since they were not in their local area that they were students from one of the special schools here. I found out that there are several, I guess what we would refer to as magnet schools in Manhattan. You have to be tested and score at a particular level to be admitted to these schools. Anyway, there were several kids on this particular bus, doing what kids do on school busses, jumping around, kicking at one another, out of their seats, giggling. I almost, without thinking jumped up and reprimanded them. I remembered I am on vacation, not in work mode. They were off the bus soon and so were we.

We planned to have lunch in Chinatown at one of the places on my list.  We were hungry so we planned to eat before the shopping adventure, which in Chinatown is a tiring adventure.  The weather forecast was 0% chance of rain so for once we decided not to carry our jackets and umbrellas. About five minutes after we got off the bus the bottom fell out. We hurried to the nearest sidewalk with construction because the scaffolds cover the sidewalks in those places.  We were trying to decide if we would wait out the storm or waste money on a cab. We knew the restaurant couldn't be far.  A gentleman told us there was a store at the end of the scaffold so Jerry ran in to buy two umbrellas. While he was in the store an Asian young lady asked me where Bayard Street was located. I'm guilty of stereotyping because my first thought is I'm a Georgia tourist in Chinatown and this Asian girl is asking me for directions.  How does she not know the way.?  I told her I was a tourist and asked if she also was a tourist. She said she had lived in NY her entire life but she was from Queens so she didn't know where she was either. She had a notepad and had google maps up trying to figure out her destination. We began to talk, and learned that she is currently a freshman at Dartmouth University in New Hampshire, but she had graduated from Stuyvesant High School in Tribecca. This is one of those schools I mentioned earlier. Someone a day or so ago had mentioned to me it was the best in Manhattan and only the brightest were admitted. I told her I knew she must be brilliant if she attended that high school. I asked her if she commuted alone on the subway each day and she told me she did. We talked about how kids commute alone on the subways. I can't imagine. We seem so much more protective of our kids. Again I guess it's no different than putting our 16 year old in a car alone. It's just a different world that is hard to imagine. This young girl's name was Tiffany and she shared that as I required Meaghan to call me all the time, she also had to call her mom to check in too.  


I offered to let her walk with me under my umbrella since we were headed in the same direction. She was meeting her high school guidance counselor for lunch while she was home for the summer.  We parted ways and walked on looking for our restaurant. I've shopped multiple times in Chinatown, always in the same general area where you buy knock off purses, etc. however the bus drop off was in another area. I knew Chinatown was big but it is so much bigger when you are walking it than when on a double decker bus. It's truly an amazing place to see. You feel like you are in Asia. They are speaking their native language, selling fruits, vegetables and other items I've never seen before. It was neat to walk through the section that wasn't just the hub for selling illegal knockoffs. As we walked we came on a park, Columbus Park, where all the signs were all written in what I believe was Chinese. 


Even though the area is Chinatown, there are many more Asian groups living there than Chinese. The park experience was something to behold. Inside the park were multiple little groups huddled around tables or benches. They were grouped by men and women, with neither of the groups mixed with the other sex. They were all playing games. The men were playing what appeared to be some sort of Chinese chess or checkers. The women were playing cards. Jerry said they were playing poker. Under the pavilion was loud Chinese music playing and it appeared there were big groups of men engaged in games there too. They were all oblivious to the tourists snapping their pictures.

We finally found the restaurant that I had on my list from my Frommer's book. Authentic it was for sure with huge roasted ducks hanging in the front window with heads still attached. It was old and decorated just like a Chinese restaurant. 



We sat down and tried to ask our waiter what was good. It was a funny experience trying to converse with him. It's obvious living in NY working in Chinatown doesn't require these residents to learn much English. According to my Frommer's book this is a local place that many Chinese families frequent.  We wanted to try something different instead of our same Chinese dishes we always order at home. We opted for Cantonese noodles with pork.  It was pork, not cat I know the difference in taste. Lol. Although, if you are one of those people who doesn't eat Asian food because you are convinced its some other type of domesticated animal that is served, you might want to avoid eating in Chinatown.  Me on the other hand, I'm really not picky about food. I like most of it. I was skeptical though about the dish our waiter recommended with squid and fish cakes. I wasn't that brave. 



After lunch we made our way to Mott street to wait to be approached to buy the "secret" merchandise. It only took one step onto Mott Street before a young man approached me "you want Micha Koah (Michael Kors) purse. I showed him a picture on my phone of a Michael Kors watch Meaghan wanted me to get. The adventure began as he whispered to stay a few feet behind him and follow him. He occasionally looked back to see if I was following. He then passed me off to another woman who guided us down a side street. In the past they would take you in a store as you go behind a secret door to a room full of purses. It isn't that easy any more. Now they pull out a paper with pictures from under their shirt and show you picture all the while looking frantically around for law enforcement. I told them I had to see the merchandise.  A few minutes later they were back with the watch in a plastic sleeve. It looked good. Now was time for the bargaining. We did well, if it will truly hold up.  It's heavy and looked real to me. Next we asked for purses. I told the guy I wanted to go in a room to see all the purses. He said "follow me". So we went tracking up and down several blocks. Jerry was complaining by now about how stupid this Was. I said "give it up, I'm getting my purse". We finally enter a store go around the corner in the tiny store and the wall opens up and tons of white women come out of the wall. I had to stand and wait for them to finish and then Jerry and I were led down steep, dark steps to what seemed like a dark basement cave. Then.....there they were in all their glory, Michael Kors, Gucci, Coach, you name it. I walked away with two Michael Kors after much bartering. Then Jerry told him he needed some Rayban aviator glasses. By this time our cash was dwindling. Of course they walk you straight to an ATM. This ATM requires you to scan your card just to go in and get money. It locks others out while you are getting money. Jerry got more cash then we bartered for two pair of sunglasses. By this time Jerry had had it. I wanted a watch too but he said I had to wait until our last week here and if we had any money left I could get one. If not, forget it. That's his way of telling me don't spend anymore if you want it.

After Chinatown we rested a little while and decided to walk the other direction down Water Street where our Apt is located. We were looking for Stone street because it is a small street with Cafes and tables in the cobblestone streets. 


We realized how close we were to Battery Park and the Staton Island Ferry. They are just down the street. We found a pizza restaurant and ordered pizza. It was yummy.  The pizzas in NYC are made in a wood fire oven which makes for a crispy crust.

Today (Tuesday) we started the day as usual with our breakfast in the lounge. We usually take our iPads and watch TV and FB and I write for my blog. We take our time before we head out for the day. We are getting tired at this pace and we have to find some more things that are relaxing. We thought we would go to Central Park today but the it started to rain AGAIN, so that was out of the question.  When we left the apt we rode the subway to Brooklyn first to go to the TkTs booth to get matinee tickets for tomorrow. At the Brooklyn location you can purchase matinee tickets the day before the performance. Besides Brooklyn is closer for us since we are down in the financial district. There is also a Discount booth at South Seaport right by our apt, but it's still closed from Hurricane Sandy damage.  We purchased tickets for Phantom of the Opera. I hope I will like it. It was Jerry's choice and cheaper than the others that were for sale. I've received contradicting opinions about it. Either people love it or hate it. So far I've seen 5 Broadway shows and I've loved them all. I hope this one continues my love of Broadway shows.

After our Brooklyn stop we caught another subway, made a transfer at some point and rode all the way up to the upper East side. It's neat how every neighborhood in NYC has its own personality and is almost like being in a different city.   The upper East side is where the elite and extremely rich reside.  The only celebrities that live there are the insanely rich and famous, like Madonna. The others live in other nice areas of Manhattan. The atmosphere is typical of the residents living there. There are many town cars or black cars as they appear to me. All the fancy cars seem to be black.  Most apartment buildings have doormen dressed in typical doorman attire. The buildings have signs that say "all visitors must be announced". There are nice stores like Bloomingdales, Barney's, etc. 


I didn't get to walk much of Madison Ave today because of the rain, but I want to go back on a nice day to walk Madison Ave up on the East side.  This is the most expensive shopping area in Manhattan. I want to celebrity stalk, so I have to return.  We specifically went today to take a ride on the Roosevelt Island Tram. I had riden before and wanted Jerry to see the great view this four minute ride provides across the East River to the small island called Roosevelt Island.  

Here's a link to Jerry's YouTube video. 

Roosevelt Island was once an island that housed housing projects. Now they are mostly condos and apts. We enjoyed the ride. You can ride the tram by using the same metro card used for the subway or bus. It is used by the residents and people take the same big items over just like on the subway. I've seen bikes, furniture, musical instruments and pets on the subway. Once we got to RI we walked down the riverfront path and found a bench with a great view of Manhattan and the river. 


We had packed a picnic lunch of sandwiches so we enjoyed our lunch with a view. As we sat there it became overcast and a few drops began to sprinkle around us. I didn't want to be on the tram in a storm so we made our way back over for another four minute view. From there we strolled back down the street to Dylan's Candy Bar. This store is owned by Ralph Lauren's daughter and its three stories of every kind of candy you can imagine.


You can even find candy you grew up eating as a child. I found the wax coke bottles full of colored sugar water,  lick-a-sticks, Mary Janes, chick-o-sticks, candy cigarettes, and more. Jerry found candy he remembered that I had never heard of like  Bonomo Turkish Taffy and teaberry gum. 


He is older than I am and he grew up in another part of the country so we have different memories.  We only purchased a small bag of things to taste since candy isn't something we can eat well.  


We had planned to have dessert at Serendipity 3 since we did the major subway stair master today, but the wait was longer than we cared to wait for something we didn't need anyway. By that time the rain was coming down heavier. We walked toward the west side to find the big Apple clear cube store. Jerry wants to visit all the neat Apple stores. 


That place was packed with people. Not only did they have a store full of customers, there were more employees in one store than I had ever seen in a retail store. If you have ever been to the Apple store you know they have lots of people working in there. Magnify that by a gazillion and that's what this store looked like. 


We left there and walked a little further in the rain and found the Plaza Hotel. It was on my list so we took shelter in the lobby from the rain. Since we were occupying their chairs where drinks were being ordered I felt compelled to order at least a diet coke. 


That small bottle of coke costs $7.00.  Good thing we had a picnic lunch. By now we were hungry. We have a favorite place we wanted to go that was on the upper west side. The restaurant is simple but good. We really enjoyed it on our last trip. The restaurant just moved to a new location this week. The name of it is Good Enough to Eat.  


We walked further in the rain and caught a very crowded bus in the middle of afternoon traffic.  It was just our luck the bus drop point was right in front of the old location. We walked about two or three blocks to the new location, still in the rain. Luckily we remembered our umbrellas this time. Too bad I didn't have my cute new rain coat. We finally arrived and enjoyed fried chicken and mashed potatoes with gravy, salad and sautéed kale. Watermelon slices were also included with the special. We shared a plate and drank water. That's our money saving tip too, drinking water at restaurants. We drink diet coke when we are back in our apt. After dinner we were both tired. I sure wasn't up for subway riding or bus riding especially with the rain. We checked Jerry's phone app that gives estimated cab fares. It gave a figure of $28 so we hiked to the subway, made transfers from the 1 train to the 2 train and finally made it to Wall Street. Once back in our apt we made our own ice coffee. We brought down some milk from breakfast as well as equal packets and brewed a pot of coffee this morning and chilled it while we were gone. Everyone here drinks iced coffee and all I have to do is see it and then I want it. We bought one the other night and enjoyed so we decided to save $7 and make our own. It was pretty good too.

Tomorrow we will go to see Phantom of the Opera and I will post more later.


Cindy Pafford